Dear Annie: I need advice on how to stop my wife from continually digging us into a financial hole. She makes half my salary and spends like Donald Trump. She pays her car loan, personal credit cards, groceries and the phone bill. I pay for the rest. If I didn't, we'd have no heat, air conditioning or roof over our heads.
I just learned that my wife neglected some credit card bills, so late fees were added. Her life insurance is about to be cancelled because she took out a loan on it and hasn't paid it back, and now the amount she owes exceeds the value of the policy.
I have told my wife how unfair it is that she is ruining MY credit along with hers, and she agreed, but nothing has changed. I can't save any money for the kids' college or general home repairs, because I am forced to spend my paychecks to keep her out of debt.
Annie, I am tired of feeling like a meal ticket. Worse, one of our daughters is beginning to behave just like Mom. Counseling has done absolutely nothing for us because she doesn't see the problem, saying, "It's only $5 or $10. What's the big deal?" An extra $10 a week adds up to plenty by the end of the year.
Dear Penny: Your wife is a compulsive spender, and since she is unwilling to work on it, you will have to remove the temptation. Have her arrange for her payroll check to be direct-deposited into your joint account so you can pay all the bills. Cut up those credit cards and put her on an allowance, so she knows how much she can spend on those "$5 and $10" extras. Then contact Debtors Anonymous (debtorsanonymous.org), P.O. Box 920888, Needham, MA 02492-0009.
Dear Annie: I have a boss who always wants to know where I get my clothes. Yesterday, I wore a new pair of pants, and she asked, "Are those new? Where did you get them?" This happens with every new thing I buy. She hounds me about it, sometimes even asking the price.
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